Sunday, September 9, 2012

I Am Still In Love With My Ex - Help Me Get Her Back

By Bryan Sherwood


You have been miserable since the breakup and to make matters worse, you receive the news that your ex-girlfriend has moved on and is dating someone else. You think about all the things you went through to get her back and the fact that you couldn't make it happen then you succumb to depression. Now, I tell you to don't let this get under your skin. It is still possible to get her back.

So what tricks can you use to get your ex lover back even if she appears to have moved on. Well, you two have history which has yet to happen with her new beau. History means that you will have shared some fantastic times that only you two know about. So why not start reminding her of that?

She dumped you for a reason so you need to make sure that you respect her reasons for dumping you by not bombarding her with various communications and gifts. By dumping you, she is signaling that she needs distance from you and you need to respect her wishes and give her space.

You are going to have to convince her that you know you made a huge mistake and that you aren't going to do that again. The best way to do that is to give her the space and time to see for herself that you aren't just going to run off to the next one. She has to see that you are willing to stick it out. You made a mistake, you have to deal with the consequences which may mean you waiting for a long period of time. If she is really worth it then you will do it.

Showing that you are supporting your ex will also do well for you in your goal to win her back. If she wants additional time to figure out things, then give her time. Be patient and give her the space she needs. Do not pressure her, smother her. Let her decide what she really wants and be understanding to her as possible as you can. If she decides that she no longer wants to be with you, accept her decision calmly and give your best to move on. Despite this, you should not drift away from her; you have to remain as her supportive friend.

You might have made some mistakes, we've all been there, so don't beat yourself up! The most constructive thing to do right now is not to try and rewrite history, instead you need to figure out how to step up and find a way to write the future for the two of you, that you want.

You need to become the person that she needs. Think back to what you were like when she fell in love with you. Have you changed? Did you stop doing interesting things when you devoted all of your time to her? Have you stopped going to the gym thinking that there's no reason to stay in shape now that you've snagged the girl? Become the person she wants to win ex back.

What you really need to do is make her want you back in her life again.




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