Ever drive along and wonder why you're heading in the wrong direction?
Often this the way you go continually, as you are on autopilot considering other stuff. What if you were doing this in other areas of your life, whether you realized it or not?
The Miriam-Webster compendium has a definition for goal, which states, 'the end towards which effort is directed? Given that the majority of folk set targets, it is obvious that you need to set your direction, right?
The gloomy fact is if you don't set your direction, some other person will, be it your chief, a partner, a mate? You get the picture. Its like you could be driving, but hey they?ve punched where you?re going in the sat-nav.
Before you know it, you have spent the best bit of 20 years in blind alley job, doing what folks wanted you to do, unaware of the fact that all along you have had choice in the problem.
Most people go thru life thinking about all the things they don't want, and yet couching in terms that they suspect are positive. Did you know any individual that wants to give up smoking, to drink less, to eat less, etc. ?
These folk might have thought they have set a direction, but they have not. You can?t drive forwards at speed whilst looking thru your rear view mirror.
The more we focus on lacking on something, leaving it behind, giving it up, the more we end up being pulled towards it. You see there is little to fill the gap, nada to push you forwards, because you haven't anything to aim for!
If you are "trying" to lose weight you should be concentrated on what you want to be, and how you would be acting if you were your perfect weight.
If you'd like to stop smoking, and you spend all your time giving up smoking, concentrating on the cigarettes, it is not very likely to work. Maybe you go for a patch, but then you substitute one problem for another, although not where you want to be!
What's the lesson here? Set your own direction and focus upon that, and you?re likelier to end up where you need to be.A superb way of doing this is the employment of online vision boards within Facebook.
So be the driver instead of the chauffeur in your life.
Often this the way you go continually, as you are on autopilot considering other stuff. What if you were doing this in other areas of your life, whether you realized it or not?
The Miriam-Webster compendium has a definition for goal, which states, 'the end towards which effort is directed? Given that the majority of folk set targets, it is obvious that you need to set your direction, right?
The gloomy fact is if you don't set your direction, some other person will, be it your chief, a partner, a mate? You get the picture. Its like you could be driving, but hey they?ve punched where you?re going in the sat-nav.
Before you know it, you have spent the best bit of 20 years in blind alley job, doing what folks wanted you to do, unaware of the fact that all along you have had choice in the problem.
Most people go thru life thinking about all the things they don't want, and yet couching in terms that they suspect are positive. Did you know any individual that wants to give up smoking, to drink less, to eat less, etc. ?
These folk might have thought they have set a direction, but they have not. You can?t drive forwards at speed whilst looking thru your rear view mirror.
The more we focus on lacking on something, leaving it behind, giving it up, the more we end up being pulled towards it. You see there is little to fill the gap, nada to push you forwards, because you haven't anything to aim for!
If you are "trying" to lose weight you should be concentrated on what you want to be, and how you would be acting if you were your perfect weight.
If you'd like to stop smoking, and you spend all your time giving up smoking, concentrating on the cigarettes, it is not very likely to work. Maybe you go for a patch, but then you substitute one problem for another, although not where you want to be!
What's the lesson here? Set your own direction and focus upon that, and you?re likelier to end up where you need to be.A superb way of doing this is the employment of online vision boards within Facebook.
So be the driver instead of the chauffeur in your life.
About the Author:
Andrew Wilkin is a Master NLP Expert, Certified Hypnotherapist and the founder of Dream Timeline, a free site to help folks visualize their dreams using online vision boards.
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Alistair Horscroft
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